How are you?

Hi friends, how are you? These are weird and scary times and I wanted to say hi. There’s so much uncertainty and change related to the coronavirus pandemic and my anxiety is certainly higher than it’s been in months. It’s an especially weird time for us because we also have this unknown of when we’ll be adding a fifth family member and how life will change after that. So it feels especially hard to plan right now which is challenging for me.

Life went from feeling pretty normal at the beginning of the week to feeling eerie as we headed into the weekend. Empty shelves at the grocery store, reading more news, and then the email we received on Friday announcing the closure of Gilbert Public Schools “until further notice” drove home the big changes we’ll face as a family. I’m happy that our schools have closed because we should be taking measures to slow the spread of this disease. Selfishly I also felt disappointed for a while because we had so been looking forward to several weeks of having the boys in school while Chris and I snuggled our new baby girl during his parental leave.

But soon my optimist and planning brain kicked into gear. We’ve started making a homeschool schedule and finding online homeschool resources (please share any that you have!). We are so fortunate to have a very secure source of income from Chris’s job plus the fact that he will soon be home on parental leave for 12 weeks (and maybe home more depending on the work from home situation of his employer this summer?) and so I’ll have help managing the boys. We also have Chris’s parents and sister here and my mom will arrive today. Although the situation of the world is scary and we don’t know what’s going to happen, at this point we are trying to see the “opportunity” in having mandatory family time that we otherwise wouldn’t get.

To keep my spirits up here are the things I’m doing/thinking about doing:

+ Focusing on today. Uncertainty breeds anxiety and also offers no conclusion. Instead of letting my head spin about “what if” I’m trying to be present in what’s happening right now today and then counting the things I’m grateful for.

+ Limiting my news consumption. I took all of Saturday off from the news and that was a really good thing for me. For now I feel like I know what I need to know: limit social interactions, wash your hands, school is cancelled. I might get any further updates via Chris since he’s staying more connected to the news.

+ Keeping the house clean. Part nesting energy, part controlling what I can control I have been enjoying keeping the house very tidy. I’m washing laundry as soon as there’s any in a basket, sweeping and mopping weekly, ending the day with a clean kitchen, and wiping down often-touched things (light switches, door handles) most nights with Lysol wipes.

+ Reaching out to friends. It feels especially important to stay in touch and check on each other right now. My book club is staying active in our private Facebook group where we’re sharing homeschool ideas, keeping things lighthearted, and offering to run errands for anyone who needs it. I’m saying hi to friends and family more frequently on Voxer and Marco Polo and sending texts just to say “hi, how are you?” And I’ve really appreciated the messages like that sent to me.

+ Reading fun books. I have Red, White, And Royal Blue and Royal Holiday on request. Perhaps I should pick up where I left off in the Inspector Gamache series. I’d love to hear your recommendations for books that would be fun distractions right now.

+ Requesting lots of library books for the boys. My favorite way to do this is to open a tab with our library website and an Amazon tab. I search for a book on Amazon (like Extra Yarn, a favorite) and then see the similar books that Amazon recommends. I use those recommendations to get ideas for more library requests. It’s like shopping but free! (For now our libraries are open but I’m preparing myself for that to change.)

+ At-home movie dates with Chris. We essentially watch no television and movies at home but it might be the perfect time to shake things up. Last night we watched Isn’t It Romantic and it was just the escape we needed. What other great comedies have we missed in the past five years that we could watch?

+ Planning homeschool. I love a plan and a schedule so collecting homeschool resources + activities and making a schedule calms my mind. Putting it all into action will be…interesting…and I’m sure there will be a lot of adjusting but the planning is fun at least. Our boys would have been on spring break through Monday so we’re envisioning transitioning to a more homeschool schedule on Tuesday.

+ Getting outside. The weather is beautiful right now and it’s a great time to work in the yard, have a snack in the backyard, and go for an evening walk. We turned over our winter garden and plan to plant our spring garden this week. Garden Club will be one of our homeschool activities.

 

What about you, friends? How will you be keeping your spirits up? Sending love.

14 responses to “How are you?”

  1. Danielle Avatar

    Just like you, feeling all the things right now. But most of all I’m feeling thankful that we were able to stock up on the food/supplies that we need for a bit, that schools were closed and I can keep my kids at home, feeling SO THANKFUL for all the Home Schooling Mamas that are showing their support and providing such valuable resources during this time. There are no direct cases in my immediate area right now, but we are doing our part in staying home and will be doing so for the foreseeable future.

    Thinking of you and your family during this precious time. Wishing you peace and grace as well with the impending birth of your sweet baby girl and all that goes on before and after birth.

    And I’m always grateful for your podcast! Always a highlight of my week when a new episode is released and love listening to past episodes as well. Take Care!

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      Thank you so much, Danielle. Yes! People are being so generous to share so many ideas and resources for those of us thrust into homeschooling. How amazing that there are so many great online resources now?!

      I’m so glad you enjoy the podcast! We have episodes pre-recorded and schedule through mid July!

  2. Mandy Lambert Avatar

    Kelsey, thanks for writing, I have been thinking of you and how crazy of a time this must be not only dealing with the virus but also having the birth of your baby any day now. I am hoping things are a bit easier with using a birth center rather than a hospital. I am also looking forward to hearing some good news when she is born and seeing evidence of how many beautiful and happy things there are in the world.

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      Thank you, Mandy. It has definitely turned into a really weird time to have a baby. I’m also looking forward to her arrival and having that distraction and disconnection from the outside world for a while.

  3. Lauren P. Avatar

    Wishing you all well! I think this scholastic stuff looks awesome:https://classroommagazines.scholastic.com/support/learnathome.html

    Two books and a video or activity for every day.

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      This looks really great – thank you! Putting this on our list of activities.

  4. Jill Avatar

    Weird weird times. Trying to stay present and calm for my kiddos. Also, sending you all the positive birthing vibes for you and your little lady. You all will be so cozy in that sweet little nursery.

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      Thank you, Jill 🙂

  5. saturdayedition (Kate) Avatar

    I’m 7 months pregnant (first baby) and can totally relate Kelsey. My anxiety is starting to creep up, especially after yesterday as UK government (where I live) announced that all pregnant women should self-isolate for 12 weeks! All of my immediate family is in Canada and were due to come visit in April, and now can’t come. It’s tough, particularly as I have found the pregnancy isolating in general. Plus, there is still so much we need to buy for the baby! I guess I’ll have to do it all online now. :/ I am trying not to think/worry too far into the future. I had really hoped my mum would be able to come over after the birth, but that seems very uncertain now. They are saying here that travel restrictions might be in place for half a year or more. I just can’t imagine my parents or sister not meeting their new grandchild/niece or nephew. I sincerely hope things change by late spring/summer. I’m trying to see the positive – my husband and I are together, and our baby is safe inside me for now.

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      Ah that is so so hard. Yes, keep focusing on what you can control and the things you are grateful for. Eventually things will get back to normal and there will be lots of family snuggles with your new little one. Sending you lots of good thoughts as you navigate the situation.

  6. Amanda Avatar

    I’ve been thinking about you. I feel so much empathy for all of you in North America as you’re at the beginning, where we were almost 2 months ago. I remember how anxious I was then, and how my emotions yo-yo’d so much. I’m so glad to hear you have family there; it must be such a comfort.

    In case you or any of your other readers might find it helpful, I hope it’s okay to leave a link to my blog post with tips on “how to survive self-quarantine” http://www.sunshineandwhimsy.net/2020/03/16-tips-for-surviving-self-quarantine.html

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      I love your post. And thank you for the good thoughts!

  7. Sara Avatar

    I started listening to the podcast just a few months ago (in happier times) and similar to you I have a 6 year old boy, a 4 year old boy, and I’m 34 weeks with a girl (not quite as far along but close!). I’m in South Carolina and we are voluntarily self quarantining even though the government (frustratingly) isn’t mandating it. I just found out about a presumptive case at work and it was someone I passed in the hallway while she had symptoms so my anxiety has hit a new high today. I’m not a great candidate for a birthing center so still planning a hospital delivery and I’m extremely concerned what the state of the hospitals will be by my delivery day as well as what possible unknown impacts there could be from contracting the virus now. I wish I could have my baby sooner before things get really bad here! I had worked out a great homeschool exchange with a family across the street that was giving each of us time to work (somehow I’m still supposed to do my job now) and increasing normalcy as we were all self isolating, but since getting the news about the case at work I felt I had to end that arrangement. I’ve also cancelled my next routine prenatal on the advice of the OB given possible exposure. I had planned some fun one on one days with each of my boys this week before the baby arrives that are now cancelled and I’m mourning the loss of the blissful nesting time I had planned for this week (during my 6 year old’s spring break). I had been enjoying the anticipation of the baby arriving and really relishing my final time with just my big boys and my anxiety over the last few weeks has ended that. This is my last pregnancy and so I’m sad that the feelings through the end are those of anxiety and stress. I know people around the world are dealing with much harder issues so I don’t want to wallow in self pity but I’m still grieving the loss of what I thought this time would be. So needless to say I understand what you’re going through!

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      So many emotions, I can definitely relate! There is sadness and disappointment for our personal situations even as we know that others are dealing with much worse. I think it’s all ok and we can make space for all those feelings. One day at a time, focus on what you can control, and what you know. Wishing you the best.

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