How my work days go

This month will mark eight months since I quit my full time job. Having daylight creative work time is what I dreamed of when I was working full time and I am still in awe that it’s come true. Before I quit my job I thought a lot about how I wanted to structure my days when I had full control. I took the summer to decompress, organize, and tackle things languishing on my to-do list. Once the boys started school I switched into creative work mode. Currently I have days each week for work of my choosing. For example, I started work on a proposal for a nonfiction book for working moms and Erica and I no longer have to record our podcast at night (love this so much!). I love my calendar and to-do list and feel I’m doing a pretty good job structuring my time but always believe there is room for improvement. Now that I’ve been at my new schedule for a while it seems like a good time to check in.

How my creative work days go

We’ve settled into the pattern of sending Cedric to preschool on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays so on those days both boys are in school. These are my days to get writing, podcasting, and often some home administrative things (errands or appointments) done. On these days I’m home from dropping off the boys at school by about 8:30 a.m. and have until about 2:30 p.m. when I need to leave for school pickup. That feels like it should be so much time but it goes by so fast!

Mondays are when I try to sit down for focused book proposal writing time from about 9 to 11:30 a.m. or noon. By noon I’m out of creative energy and use the rest of my time for responding to emails, tidying up the house, laundry, or an errand.

Tuesdays are often a day for podcasting, either recording or editing or both. Erica and I have created our schedule so that once per month we record two episodes at once and once per month we have “creative club” where we discuss our writing progress or podcast administration. On weeks when Erica and I don’t get together I often have a podcast to edit and schedule. That takes two to three hours in total so that’s the first part of my day. Then, like Mondays, I use the rest of the day for housework or email or errands if I don’t have something else planned.

Thursdays are a kind of catchall day and I have the sense I could be using my Thursdays more effectively. By this point in the week the house is often untidy from the living of the past few days and laundry might have built up. It’s also become a day for calling my mom and friends. I try to talk to my mom once a week and we’ll talk for an hour. I also have a couple of friends that I like to keep up with on the phone every other week or so and Thursday during the day often works (plus I try not to schedule calls for Mondays and Tuesdays so I can get more writing/podcasting done early in the week). I’ve also been doing a morning run on some Thursdays with my neighbor as a way to fit in an extra workout. Between my workout schedule and Chris’s there isn’t another early morning slot for me to work out which would be my preferred time. What seems to end up happening is that I try to fit in lots of things on Thursdays: maybe a little writing, some housework, some home administration, and talking on the phone, and end up feeling like I wasn’t very productive.

How I could improve

Overall I have been feeling like I should be able to get more writing done, especially posting to my blog, if I have three days of childcare per week. And yet the weeks go by and I’m not doing it! Where I want to be is at a point where I’m maintaining a pipeline of posts: ideas that are percolating, a couple posts in draft, a couple that just need a photo or final edit, and having one or two already scheduled to publish. What will get me there is several hours of writing and prepping posts so that’s what I would need to schedule for myself.

I’m also feeling like I could be more intentional with my Monday and Tuesday afternoons. Instead of leaving the final couple hours of the afternoon to email/errands/etc maybe I should take a lunch break and then work on a blog post for an hour.

What seems to really help me have feel like I have good weeks is not to schedule too many out-of-the-ordinary things and to think through my whole week on Sunday. Last week, for example, I stacked my week a too full with a dentist appointment, being interviewed on a podcast, a hair cut, and having a technician out to set up something on our house solar panels. Plus Erica and I recorded two podcast episodes on Monday and I had to quickly get an episode turned around in time for a Wednesday release. But luckily that is pretty atypical and just remembering that helps me not feel too frazzled or defeated for not getting writing done.

Last Sunday I sat with Chris to go over our calendars and walked him through my week. It really helped to look so closely at my commitments and see where I could schedule in writing and podcasting (especially on such a busy week). It helped me see that with everything I had going on I probably didn’t have time to work on my book proposal. So instead of feeling like I wasn’t productive or efficient enough I recognized that it was just a symptom of a busy week (and reminded myself not to schedule so many things in one week!). 

Something else I’d like to improve is how I’m managing home administrative and housework tasks. Life constantly generates things to be dealt with, doesn’t it? Returns to make, new shoes to buy for the boys, a medical payment to make, the boys art work to process. Not to mention laundry and dishes! If I’m not intentional these things nag at me all week and distract me from my focused creative work. To deal with to-dos and tasks (not housework) I’d like to schedule a weekly home admin power hour, inspired by Gretchen Rubin, or perhaps a monthly power day. The idea is that you set aside dedicated time to get through as many tasks as possible. Because isn’t it always the case that annoying home admin tasks typically take less time that you think but it’s just so hard to get started? Knowing that I have time upcoming to get these things done might let me put them out of my mind while I work. I think Thursdays are a good day for powering through home admin tasks so I’d like to plan more of those.

As for housework, it varies week to week how much housework there is and how much time I spend on it. I work better in a clean and tidy house for sure so I feel myself pulled to clean/do laundry when it needs to be done. But at the same time I didn’t quit my job to do housework. (Thanks to my mom for reminding me of this.) When I was working full time I felt like we were rarely able to stay on top of housework and the state of the house stressed me out (admittedly I have a low tolerance for untidiness). Now that I technically have more time to clean and tidy I have to fight not to prioritize those tasks. Maybe when the house isn’t clean I need to leave to work elsewhere (although I prefer working at home). We usually have the house cleaned professionally once per month and increasing this to twice a month is something we could work into our budget if it would make a difference. To be clear, keeping the house clean and the laundry folded is not something Chris is expecting me to do. This is coming from my preference for a tidy home and knowing the rest of our lives run smoother that way.

 

As we head into the holidays I’ll have a break from my regular weeks so it’ll be a good time to think about how I want my weeks to go in 2019. I’d love to hear any strategies that work well for you for making the most of your creative work time while balancing all the other demands of life. 

10 responses to “How my work days go”

  1. Melissa Avatar

    I would love the read your thoughts for working moms! I hope you are able to write that book! I’m in the middle of it right now with my first kiddo!

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      Thank you so much Melissa! I am making slow and steady progress and hope to have the proposal done by May and then reach out to agents.

  2. Kelly Avatar

    I haven’t been in the same situation as you but I was a stay at home mom to two young boys for almost two years when my second was born. Now, I’m back to full time work. What I have found with housework and home administrative tasks is that they will expand to fit the available time. I used to spend seemingly the whole week on this (not really though because I was taking care of 2 kids also, but…definitely most nap times) and now that I don’t have that time, I just don’t do as much. I can’t explain how that happens, but it seems to. My house doesn’t seem to really be messier, but also 2 kids aren’t home all day ha. Anyway, my advice would be to block out more time for your creative work and then set more limits on the other stuff. I wonder if you could involve Cedric on the days he is home in some of the cleaning stuff or errand running? Does he have a quiet time in the afternoon you could write blog posts during, or call your mom/friends? I think you are doing a great job with this transition and I’m enjoying reading more frequently blog posts 🙂

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      This is so true that these tasks seem to expand to fill the available time! I definitely see that. I think these are great ideas. I have been doing a better job last week and this of scheduling my whole day at home instead of letting it develop. It seems then that I end up multi-tasking but not truly focusing on anything. If I could even plan to do one home task with Cedric (and include him, which he loves) that would probably help too. He does help me with grocery shopping every Friday and has been such a good helper!

  3. Kendal Avatar

    I am a SAHM to a 3-year-old girl, with my second due early in the new year. My husband works an away/home shift schedule of 8-6 (8 days away, 6 days at home). When my daughter stopped napping about 6 months ago, I became so burnt out — 8 days on my own + 12-13 hr days with no nap break! She now goes to preschool 2 days a week, from 9-2, which has been such a gift. I try to use that time exclusively for things that will re-energize me (like a yoga class, brunch with a friend, working on a blog at a coffee shop, etc.) or things that are way less complicated to do without a 3-year-old in tow (appointments, Christmas shopping). In the weeks my husband is at home, we use those days for day-dates. I save all my dishes/laundry for her “quiet hour” (we do one hour of TV from 2-3 pm) and when that hour’s up, my time for those tasks is up, too. Just like you didn’t quit your job to do housework, we’re not paying for preschool so I can do the dishes! This will change come Jan/Feb when our second is born because preschool days will mean just a break from caring for 2 kids, so no idea what that will look like yet.

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      I love your strategy of using childcare time for things that energize you – that is SO smart but it can be hard to arrive there. The house chores feel pressing but don’t necessarily energize you. It sounds like you have a really good rhythm and with how intentional you are I know you’ll find a new one with baby #2 (congrats by the way!).

  4. Joanna Martin Avatar

    This has been a constant struggle for me the past few years! I always get ahead of myself with potential creative endeavors and then I have the hardest time figuring out when it’s all actually going to happen! Our kids are in school one day a week on the same day and it is hard to make a predictable schedule that day and often times I use it for catching up on all the errands and tasks I don’t want to do with kiddos in tow. But I’ve been trying to figure out writing and creative time during nap/rest time and mornings/night. It’s a hard balance to strike!

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      This is tough, one day a week is some time but not a lot of time. One thing to remember is that it doesn’t have to be all or nothing – maybe one weekend day per month you could go and have a 4-hour chunk or writing time. And perhaps something like that would give you momentum for fitting in smaller chunks of writing elsewhere. You are doing a good job given that you have lots of demands on your time – and as more time opens up you’ll be ready to make good use of it!

  5. Sara Avatar

    I love seeing how other people structure their time! Do you feel like you have more “free time” than you did when you were working? That is, at night do you feel more able to relax and not rush about doing things because you finished some tasks (like laundry, tidying, etc.) during the day? To me, it seems like working outside the home and non-working outside the home moms feel equally stressed about laundry, groceries, tidying, etc. and Perhaps your standards are higher for yourself now that you’re home? I too get stressed with a messy house and know that the more I’m home the more I’m likely to notice the things that bother me.

    Related, do you feel the standards are higher (either from other people or yourself) now that you’re home more? I feel that because I work outside the house full-time I sort of get a pass on some things. Like, I can order pizza for the birthday party and not feel compelled to make everything Pinterest-worthy because people say “oh but she works full-time…”. In some ways, I feel that moms who work from home or watch their kiddos full-time get penalized because people expect more from them when really they’re just as busy (if not busier!) Really, who ever has time to make things Pinterest worthy?!

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      These are SUCH great questions, Sara! Overall I do feel like I have more free time and have very rarely worked in the evenings whereas I used to always have to do podcast recording and editing at night – and I was so ready to be done with that! At the same time, I do relate to what you said about noticing things around the house more because I’m home plus I do think I have pretty high standards in terms of tidiness and everything being “done” around the house. And agree with you that moms in all circumstances have a lot on their plate and should get no shame for doing whatever can lighten their load!

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