Goals – March 2016

Hello spring! Even though February had an extra day there is no delaying spring here. The skies are blue and bright, the sunlight is toasty warm. I’m already getting weird tan lines on my feet from my slip-on shoes and it’s nearly time to put away the boys’ pants for the season.

February brought what we hope will be the last of the plague of sicknesses at our house. If I add exclamation points after all the ailments it almost reads like an upbeat children’s story: Cedric had RSV! Dash had a fever! Chris had the flu! We all had coughs! 

But there were good things in February, too: a Galentine’s Day breakfast with my book club (celebrating EIGHT years with my book club this year), my mom’s visit, celebrating my in-laws anniversary sans kids, Dash returning to his easy bedtime routine (he had been fighting it) and Cedric talking and learning new words everyday.

I realized I haven’t talked much about my process for setting monthly goals in a while. Last year I started sharing recurring monthly goals in these posts, which is a practice I really like. It helps me to remember: maintaining the status quo is already a lot of work! And lately I’ve really been feeling that. And these goals don’t even cover my full time job and daily parenting duties plus making time for Chris! It doesn’t feel like I have much to give beyond what I try to accomplish on a weekly basis.

For monthly goals I don’t give an update of how I did (although I used to). I don’t accomplish everything on my lists but I’d rather be looking forward than backward. At the end of the month if I haven’t accomplished everything I either let go of what I didn’t do (like February’s creative field trip) or keep it on my mental list with a goal of finding dedicated time for it (like the photo books I still haven’t gotten around to from January!). 

There will never be a shortage of things we can spend our time on, we can always be busy. The trick is to stop and ask, “How do I want to be spending my time? How do I want to be living my life?” And then you have to be fierce with your time; uncommitted hours rarely come looking for you.  Even though I don’t always accomplish everything that I set out to each month I still love the habit of making monthly goals. It helps me to reset twelve times per year and ask myself, “What values do I want to reflect in my time and energy?” 

And with that in mind, it’s March!

Big things happening this month:

Nothing, woo hoo! 

March goals: 

+ Go through the boys’ clothes. Each boy has one drawer with all of their clothes and suddenly they are brimming with outgrown clothes – didn’t Cedric just start wearing 12m? Now he’s left it far behind. As Dash grows out of clothes we put them away for Cedric. As Cedric outgrows clothes we donate them.

+ Track all my spending in Mint. Chris is really good about checking into Mint and seeing how we are spending. I fall in and out of the habit. But lately I’ve found that even though I have $150 each month budgeted towards “entertainment spending” such as lunch and coffee out or miscellaneous things I’m spending at least that much and usually more. This means I dip into savings to pay for these extras and it’s a habit I don’t want to continue. Tracking is an easy way to understand where my money is going so that I can get back to my budget.

+ Plan Dashiell’s THIRD birthday party. Can’t believe it. We’re going to keep it small and simple. I’m thinking I’ll call the fire station down the street to see if we can visit and then have cupcakes at our house – strawberry, as requested by Dash. 

+ Run once a week. I am a more consistent runner when I have a running buddy and I found one! Once a week I’ve been trying to run with a neighbor and fellow mama. She’s getting back into running after having two kids (our kids are nearly identical ages) so we don’t go far or fast but we’re establishing the habit and that’s the most important part. Plus we get to chat and I’m getting to know a neighbor better, it’s great! 

Recurring monthly goals:

+ Exercise three times per week. Finding a consistent running partner is the key to taking my usual two times/week exercise routine to three time/week – so excited for this. Ideally I’d love to be exercising four times/week and slowly, adding one workout at a time, I’m getting there.

+ Get up early on Tuesdays for the 4 AM project. This is tough every time my alarm goes off but I’m pushing through; the extra hour and a half of quiet work time is so valuable. I’ve usually been finishing up a blog post and trying to also make time to work on my e-course for working mamas.

+ Publish to RISING*SHINING on Mondays and Wednesdays.   

+ Record and produce new episodes of The Girl Next Door Podcast and Matrimoney on schedule. 

+ Download photos from my phone and collect photos for the 2016 Team Wharton photo book.

Happy March!

7 responses to “Goals – March 2016”

  1. Feisty Harriet Avatar

    I’ve been working on re-working some Life Goals, reading books about habits and time management (currently on Gretchen’s “Better Than Before”) and my plan is coming together on how to make forward steps and improve. The goal-writing/setting thing is gonna be hard for me, I usually am really aggressive in my goals, and then while I accomplish a lot, it’s not everything, and I get frustrated (Blast start? Is that what she calls it?)

    xox

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      Yes, the blast start, I like that concept! Over time I’ve really had to figure out what I can reasonably accomplish and also discern between goals I WANT myself to have versus things I know I can follow through on, goal setting and achieving is an art!

  2. Catherine Short Avatar

    Goodness! I hope March is a no sickness zone for ya’ll. The cycle of sharing sicknesses is something, in parenting, I’m not looking forward too!

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      Thank you! I think it’s been much more significant with the two, it just keeps going round and round ugh!

  3. Amanda Avatar

    “Team Wharton photo book”—I love that! Every time T and I accomplish something together (even small things like laundry) we high five and say, “Go, team!” What a fun idea to make it a whole family thing.

    You and Chris are really inspiring. I just started using the Dollarbird app to track our expenses and income. When I’ve mentioned to other people that we’re tracking our money and going to start a budget, I’ve gotten reactions like, “Oh! Are you having trouble?” or “Oh, tough time financially?” I explain that, no, we’re actually okay (probably better than okay) financially, we just want to know how much we’re spending and try to save more. If you asked me how much we spent on groceries a month, I’d have no idea. That’s why I want to do this, to know exactly where our money is going so we can be even smarter with it! People seem confused then, like they can’t comprehend why we would want a budget if we aren’t having money trouble. It’s surprising!

    I have a question about budgeting, actually. We haven’t set a budget yet; we’re just tracking for now, because I wouldn’t even know where to start because I have no idea what we spend. I’m thinking we’ll track for a month or two, and then set a budget and try to stick to it. Does that make sense, or should we set a budget, even without knowing an average of how much we spend on what a month?

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      I think your budgeting plan sounds good! See where you are so you can write out what you are actually spending but then you can also see what you want to be spending in places (if it is different from where you actually spend). I think the important thing is to set savings goals first and then let your spending adjust to that and also automate savings so that you save without thinking. Just remember that just about every category is flexible (even for rent/mortgage, if you really wanted to change it you could move), seeing it that way is empowering. Try adjusting some numbers so what you can do, and make those big goals of what you want to do with your life, whether its saving for a house, traveling, starting a business or retiring early. Let you goals dictate your budget, not the other way around. Happy budgeting!

    2. Amanda Avatar

      Thanks, Kelsey!

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