The 4 AM project

Like all of us, my life is full. To find time for myself – for exercise, creative work, friendships and relaxing – I have to be flexible with how I fit those things in and then plan ahead. When we recently entered the second week straight of Cedric sleeping through the night I realized that with a full night of sleep I might be able to find a little more time in my week.

Enter the 4 AM project. I had the idea that if I can get myself up at 4 AM one or two mornings a week I can work for an hour and a half before I’d usually be getting up to shower and get the boys ready. That is potentially an extra three house of creative work time a week! It might even be a way that I can resume work on the e-course I want to create for working moms. 

Although I’m disciplined I’m not a robot and before I started the 4 AM project I knew I would need to make getting up in the chilly darkness as enticing as possible. And so each night before a 4 AM alarm I take time to ensure I will have the following immediately upon waking:

+ Caffeine. I get coffee ready to brew and set my clean Hydroflask coffee mug next to the coffee pot.

+ Comfort. I lay my soft robe on a chair near our bed and set my cozy slippers next to the bed. 

+ A tidy and inviting work space. This includes clearing my office desk and setting out my computer, power cord and a candle and lighter. The small ritual of lighting a candle makes the work session feel intentional and cozy.

I’ve been able to get up and work at 4 AM a few times over the past two weeks. Initially, I always want to go back to sleep. But if I can sit up and get my feet in my slippers, pull on my robe and shuffle out to hit “start” on the coffee pot – I’m golden.

In the office I turn on my desk lamp, light my candle and turn on the computer. Soon I return to the kitchen to fill my Hydroflask with hot coffee and when I sit down I’m ready to write. I’ve been surprised at what can come from an hour and a half of focused writing.

On the very first morning I was attempting to get up at 4 AM my alarm went off and it felt painful. I thought, “This was a really dumb idea.” But then Chris reached out his hand to find mine and he said with a squeeze, “You can do it. I’ve already set the coffee.”

And then I knew I could do it!

Chris definitely would have been justified to feel a bit grumpy since my alarm also roused him from sleep. But instead he encouraged me in my crazy idea to get up at a ridiculous hour. Every time I think of Chris telling me, “You can do it,” I just smile and feel so much gratitude. Thanks, husband!

In addition to finding time for creative work at 4 AM I’m also finding time to exercise in the early morning. One or two mornings a week I’m going to 5 AM Orange Theory classes. I’m an early bird at heart, clearly, although 4 AM is redefining early for me. Making use of the quiet dark morning hours when few people are awake has always been my favorite way to start the day and how perfect to have them back to myself during the Year of Kelsey.

13 responses to “The 4 AM project”

  1. Amanda Avatar

    You are so inspiring, Kelsey! Go, you! And when I read about Chris encouraging you, I got all warm and fuzzy 🙂 Love you guys!

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      Thank you!!

  2. Catherine Short Avatar

    My coffee shop opens at 4 am so on the mornings that I open I’m up at 3 am….ouch! But I’m always a little envious of our customers who come in that hour to utilize time before the day fully begins. Good luck on your 4 am venture!

    1. Natanya Bittman Avatar

      Wow!! That’s amazing. I’ve never heard of a coffee shop being open at that hour. But if there was one in my neighborhood I would be all about it. 🙂 One summer a couple years ago I had a newspaper route and I would have to get up at 3 (or 3:30 if I really rushed!) to get to the drop off location to collect my papers. That was a hard summer. I think getting up just 2-3 times per week at that hour is much more manageable and with coffee at the ready, anything is possible 😉

    2. Kelsey Avatar

      Whew that is early! I have never encountered a locally owned coffee shop that opens so early, I would take advantage of that if I was in Nashville, I know all those early birds really appreciate you being up so early!

  3. Anna Avatar

    I love this! A couple years ago I started getting up at 6:30 to go to Bar Method before work. It makes such a difference in my mood and energy throughout the day, not to mention my fitness level. 6:30 is early for me, but 4 am is way more hardcore!

  4. Anne Avatar

    This is a great idea, Kelsey. I hear you on the beauty of sleeping through the night—when we reached that point with our daughter last spring, I felt like I could conquer the universe. I’ve been getting up at 5:30 to have a few minutes to myself before she’s raring to go, but 4 would bring a whole new level of productivity to my mornings. What time do you typically go to bed, out of curiosity?

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      We’ve always tended to go to bed early, especially so after having Dashiell and having a 5 AM “alarm” every morning (or earlier!). I aim to be going to sleep by 8:30ish before 4 AM days or 9ish on other days (but if I’m reading a great book I can’t help but stay up later, 10 is when I tell myself that I MUST go to bed).

  5. Natanya Bittman Avatar

    I’m so impressed that you decided to go for the 4am Project so soon after your boys started sleeping. But I feel you, getting some personal time in, no matter the time of day can feel amazing. I’m inspired!

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      I’m so motivated to get time to myself, it certainly becomes much more precious after having kids. If only I had known how to be so productive before having kids, but alas!

  6. Gretchen Avatar

    Chris is just the sweetest. It’s always so important to have spousal support when you’re trying something new! When I want to do something that’s a bit painful (in the summer I’ll wake up before work to go running) I’ll give myself an incentive to do it. My favorite is to tell myself I can get a latte from my favorite coffee place ONLY if I run every day before work that week. That way, I have a bit of motivation to get up and not skip the run! Otherwise, it’s regular old drip coffee.

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      Love that, I am all about incentives like this, I have been wanting to write a blog post about it. that is a lot of running – good for you!! I am loving Orange Theory but would love to add some outdoor runs back to my routine, miss them.

  7. Feisty Harriet Avatar

    Brilliant!!! A morning person I am not. But give me a 1am painting session and I’m on a personal high for days. 🙂

    xox

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