Reflections on a blogging break

August was the first time since starting my blog in January of 2011 that I gave myself complete permission not to worry about it one bit. I felt no pressure to draft a post, snap a picture of something I was doing so that I could post about it or to check blog stats. It felt wonderful!

Even though, or probably because, my blog is something I do completely for myself (I don’t earn any money through blogging or podcasting), I put a lot of pressure on myself to continually create content that I’m proud of and that I hope will resonate with readers and the community I want to cultivate. 

Taking a little break was a really great way to reflect on what I love about blogging and to remind myself that it’s something I choose to do, and I continue to want to choose to do. I love having the freedom to do what I want with my blog and I love connecting with readers. At the same time, maintaining a blog is essentially a part time job, a job that I do outside of spending quality time with my family, being a partner in maintaining a household and of working my full time job. And there’s so much more I always want to be doing with my blog, from updating design aspects of my blog to writing all the posts that I have ideas for to connecting more with readers via social media. I’m reminded that it’s a balance of being energized by all the possibility but not letting it overwhelm me, because let’s be honest, it’s just a blog.

Lately we’ve been in simplification mode with our budget, with our stuff, and even with our time. For me that’s meant taking a break from blogging for a month and also from reading blogs and from checking Facebook. I realized that I checked my blog reader and Facebook reflexively and it usually only served to break my attention from whatever task I had just been focused on. I definitely love the community, inspiration and reflection that comes from reading blogs and I enjoy reading many of your blogs and knowing what you’re up to! But I want to be intentional about how I consume them and to make sure it’s in a way that is fulfilling and not detracting.

I’m feeling such a pull to focus on the small sphere of the world that includes our little family and our home as we prepare to welcome another baby. There’s a wonderful community and support network  that comes from being part of the blogging world but there can also be the feeling of needing to do more – more with my blog, more recipes, more DIY projects, even just a message of “be more of yourself” which can be inspiring but sometimes it’s OK to just be.

All of this rambling is to say that it’s felt good to quiet this part of my life (and brain) for the past month and to gain perspective on finding a balance of taking part in a community and being inspired without letting it be draining. 

I’d love to know what you think about finding a balance between reading blogs and being inspired versus feeling drained. And what about taking breaks from social media? I have loved making Facebook a very occasional part of my life.

P.S. On the new episode of The Girl Next Door Podcast we’re talking about back to school season and catching you up on our latest obsessions and all the neighborhood news, which includes a creepy chair.

12 responses to “Reflections on a blogging break”

  1. Michele @ A Storybook Life Avatar

    This post resonates with me so much, Kelsey. I was definitely feeling pulled in/down earlier this summer by what I was calling the “social media vortex,” and the mini-break I took while on vacation was hugely beneficial. I’m back to writing and reading and skimming FB/Twitter but just as you’ve said, I’m trying to make it more intentional and something I do for enjoyment, not obligation (part of which is letting go of the idea that I need to read back through all the posts I’ve missed). It’s tough getting the balance right, and I’m not sure I’m there yet – but I’m trying! Please keep writing (IF you want to!) about how you’re navigating the balance at your end.

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      Thank you, Michele! I do love a schedule and had been wondering if I might check blogs and Facebook once a week, for example. If I find something that works for me Ill definitely share!

  2. andee Avatar

    Yes! Sometimes my internet consumption becomes so automatic and not even meaningful. Which I guess says a lot about our human tendencies towards consumption in general. I find myself being more critical of myself and my life when I read more blogs so I have to choose carefully who I incorporate into my daily life.
    I have to admit though I got crazy excited when I opened iTunes and I had a new The Girl Next Door podcast to enjoy!

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      Im so glad you enjoy listening! Somehow podcasts can seem a little different or dont affect me in the same way. Maybe because I often listen while Im doing something else so they dont seem to take time away as so much enhance – at least I hope our podcast enhances your time! 🙂

  3. Amanda Coolidge Avatar

    So fascinating that you wrote about this. I have been experiencing the same and it really hit home after I listened to the Jess LIvely podcast last week and her guest said “At the end of the day people will remember you for your in depth interaction with them, not your facebook status or your instagram shot”. I realized that when there was a moment to spare I immediately jumped on my facebook feed or instagram. I have since changed my habits (1 week strong) and I check blogs and instagram in the morning and then again when my son goes to bed.

    My priority is to spend quality face to face time with my friends and family- that’s what guides.

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      I think just being conscious of it is huge, it’s so easy to have it be mindless and then we aren’t really in a position to gain community or inspiration from those sources. It’s easy to zone out on social media but I realized what’s much more relaxing is to read a book or sit outside or do anything not in front of a screen. Your new habits sound like great ones!

  4. Carrie Avatar

    Love this post. My entire life is in “simplify” mode, and maybe a break is in order for me too. It’s always good to refocus.

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      It was really great, I highly recommend it!

  5. Kristy Avatar

    I’m really enjoying the comments on this post! Balance between real life and social media is something I’ve struggled with too. My time feels so much more precious now just adding one more little one to the mix. A while ago I tried to consolidate. My Twitter feed was cluttered with auto tweets and Twitter parties so I added the people I actually conversed with to Instagram, Facebook, and my blog reader and got rid of Twitter. I also pared down my friends list on Facebook to only people I actually interacted with – random people like the person I met on a bus ride home from a bar in university didn’t make the cut. It helped but I like the idea of scheduling time!

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      My Twitter feed is a mess and I don’t use it very much, I think I could do a lot of simplifying there and definitely on Facebook as well. I very much agree on time feeling so precious, growing a family makes your priorities very obvious! I want to be very conscious about guarding my time where I can and spending it in quality ways.

  6. Sandra Avatar

    Hi Kelsey and Erica! Just wanted to let you know that I recently found your podcast and I absolutely love it! It is definitely my favorite one out there and I’ve listened to every episode in just a few days and oh man, I need more! Even my boyfriend (who usually despise everything about podcasts) told me that you guys sounded like a lot of fun when I told him about your neighborhood news. Well, keep up the good work and take care! Sandra

    1. Kelsey Avatar

      Thank you so much, Sandra!! Comments like this rock our world, thank you for hanging out with us! New episode coming at you next week!

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